There is this popular saying that: ‘Out of sight is out of mind’. This is arguably true.
Anyone that whas ever been in a relationship would agree that it’s only a matter of time before you start forgetting about someone. It’s only a matter of time before the old memories begin to fade, it’s only a matter of time before everything starts falling apart all because in some way or the other there has been a disconnect.
The only way to remain on the mind of your partner whether you are together or they are away temporarily is to do things together consistently. Notice the emphasis on the word consistently. The reason for this emphasis is that most couples do things together, in fact all couples do things together at some point, in one way or another, whether they get along or not so much.
It’s only when we engage each other consistently that doing stuff together becomes powerful. Have you noticed that involving someone in an activity (or series of activities) for a while builds a sense of familiarity with them, like you’ve known them all their lives, even if they were strangers before? That’s the power of ‘together’, one powerful tool most couples fail to tap into. Why? Well, life happens; events, activities, responsibilities and all.
So here are three ways to stay on top of that;
Life has a way of making us get ‘carried away’ by enormous challenges. Sometimes it can be so overwhelming you forget about everything else just to focus on the problem (not even on the solution, which can be time wasting to say the least). This is where intentionality comes in. You have to find a way to intentionally remember to do things together, on purpose. Not only when you feel like it. One great way to do that is to set a reminder of what to do and when to do them. That way, you’re able to follow through consistently, even with all the challenges or changes going on around you.
KEEP THE GOAL IN MIND
If your goal is to have a great relationship, if you truly desire to be happy in your marriage, if you really want to have peace and make your relationship that safe haven you can always run to for support, then engaging in activities together consistently is a must.
ENJOY THE PROCESS
Whatever stage of life you’re at, find a way to find joy in your process. Why? Because life happens so fast and before you know it, the years have gone by quickly. Remember it’s the things you do today that create memories for the future.
Besides, you did not come to this world to suffer and die, so what better way is there to spend your years than to enjoy yourself while you’re here. You deserve it!
Wondering what you could possibly be doing together as a couple? Look no further. Here are some ideas;
If you’re single
Carry out a social responsibility together; Visit an orphanage, offer yourselves for volunteering services.
Organise events together. It mustn’t be the big things. Simple things like preparing for a programme, putting together a birthday party, just putting things together generally.
Learning things. You could pick up a sport and learn how to play together, learn a skill, improve on a talent.
Read together. You could decide to both read the same book say every quarter
Set goals – This is broad. From financial goals to spiritual goals. Just set those goals and plan to achieve them together.
If you’re married. Here’s a few;
House chores- believe me, every woman wants this. Secret to the guys, Just pick an easy one and do it consistently……lol
Watch his favorite game with him. Or at least route for his team.
Pick on something your spouse enjoys doing and engage them in it from time to time. It may not be for long hours. Remember the key is consistency.
Pray together- This one right here is powerful and explosive as it serves dual purpose. It binds the couple together spiritually and even physically.
Exercise/keep fit together- This is another great way to bond and create memories.
Run errands together. Trust me, doing this consistently is bonding on another level.
Talk- check in on each other from time to time. That way you both are on the same page and no one is left behind. Share your challenges, your frustrations, your joys, your high-points.
Spend time alone together. Just the both of you. Move away from the hustle and bustle, away from your phones and all distractions. Enjoy the peace and calmness together.
The list is endless. If you need help with being intentional or coming up with ways or things to do together as a couple, holla. I’m just a chat away.
May your relationship be sweet. May you have beautiful experiences in marriage!