Whether you are married or in a relationship, that time would come when you’d find yourself in some form of disagreement with your partner. You can’t escape it. I mean, even if you both came from the same geographical location, with similar experiences, perception would still differ. Like, even twins disagree. Heck! You even have some disagreements within yourself from time to time. So, like I said, with your partner, it is bound to happen.
So what are those words you can say that’ll ‘fuel’ the already burning ‘fire. Or what’s not to say to at least not aggravate the situation.
Here are some of them you might want to avoid;
Oh wow! I cannot begin to explain how much ‘fuel’ this phrase would add to an already ‘not too good’ situation. Although this might be what you really want, this is one word (or two) you should be wary of.
Have you noticed that saying calm down does not really calm anything or anybody down? For peace sake, just avoid this words.
WHAT’S THE BIG DEAL:
Another way of saying this is ‘so what’ OR ‘And so’……you know those type of words. They just out rightly scream triviality to your partner. They (your partner) begin to feel like you don’t value them or their opinions. There is nothing soothing about it. It just hurts them, triggering them to lash out in anger most times. And the feud continues!
The one simple reason why this phrase should not be used in an argument is because it is almost always not true!
Even if it were true, it just has a way of communicating to your partner you see no good in them at all. This infuriates the other person, leaving them to think how ‘impossible’ you could be to satisfy. Then they want to exonerate themselves. Then they want to prove you wrong. And the argument goes on and on.
The ‘damage’ this does is both parties now focus on irrelevant stuff, leaving the main issue unattended to. So as much as you can, avoid, avoid, avoid!
What words/phrase do you think ‘fuels the fire’ when you have disagreements with your partner?
Let’s hear them.